RELATIONSHIP GIST with MUYIWA ADIGUN 25.02.18

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My first encounter with Muyiwa Adigun was in 2017, November I think. That was at a relationship program organised by my fellowship. I have never met someone who could teach the dynamics and wisdom of relationships with such simplicity, practicality and wisdom like him. It was amazing listening to him. He simply brought a while new perspective to the subject of relationship. Now it’s not like I didn’t know some of this things before, but I got to a whole new level of understanding. That is why when I heard of this program he organised, I didn’t hesitate, moreover “Lade” invited me, I really didn’t have much of a choice…#lol.
 
I recommend that you read and digest this post, which is exclusively from my jotter. Still on "Living The Life".

The first step before going into any relationship is SELF DISCOVERY. You should not go into any relationship if you have not discovered yourself/your purpose. You must know yourself, you must identify who you are. You should know the details of who you are and what you are called to do. Now this isn't you start to find out when you are about going into a relationship, you must have started this process long before you even start thinking about a relationship. Now a lot of us don’t know who we are because we don’t ask God questions. God loves talking, you should talk to him, ask him about who you are, and you'll certainly find out. You know yourself by knowing God and having an intimate walk with Him through His word and prayers in fellowship with Him.
You must also define your relationship with whoever you are in a relationship with. You must know why you are in the relationship, who you are in the relationship and what you intend to achieve through the relationship. You must know what you are in the relationship for.
“He  who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the Lord .”
Proverbs 18:22 NKJV
https://bible.com/bible/114/pro.18.22.NKJV
Getting into a relationship is a favour from God, something not worth struggling for. It is very easy when you are getting into a relationship with the right person. You don’t need to stress yourself, you just need to follow God.
One of the things that makes easy is
·         Understanding times and seasons.
How do I prepare?
How do I know it’s time to get into a relationship?
Marriage is an assignment. You get assigned to someone
-          Muyiwa Adigun

1.       Having a prayer life, a consistent prayer life. Praying not just about relationships and marriage, but about major life issues and decisions. In prayer younger the knowledge of times and seasons. You must have a definite and consistent prayer life, not necessarily a routine, but something you keep up with everyday.
2.       You must have somebody you are accountable to, someone who you are able to talk to and confide in. Someone of authority over you. It could be your parent, your pastor, a mentor etc.
3.       You must take care of yourself. Look good, dress well, dress like a kings and queens that you are. Imbibe the culture of royalty, all for yourself.
4.       Honour:
Strength and honor are her clothing; She shall rejoice in time to come.
Proverbs 31:25
NKJV-https://bible.com/bible/114/pro.31.25.NKJV
Honour brings you before kings. Don’t be too proud to honour people, you shouldn’t be scared to over honour people. Learn to respect people. Honour doesn’t reduce you, it doesn’t remove anything from you..
5.       Love:
Love base been really misunderstood. It is not all about Eros. It's not all about romance, you can’t have a romantic relationship with everyone you meet. Agape is what really defines love. Agape is what keeps a relationship standing and going even after the Eros starts fading. Eros has been over rated and over exaggerated. The process of love starts with loving yourself.
How do you build love? The answer is in 1Corinthians 13.

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. And though I have the  gift  of  prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the  poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing. Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. But whether there  are prophecies, they will fail; whether there  are tongues, they will cease; whether there  is knowledge, it will vanish away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part. But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away. When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known. And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.
I Corinthians 13:1-13 NKJV
https://bible.com/bible/114/1co.13.1-13.NKJV

6.       Hospitality: As Christians you must be hospitable, you must be sensitive to people’s needs. You must be sensitive to your partners needs. You can’t be in a relationship with a selfish mindset, your relationship won’t work or last if you are complacent about the needs if your partner.

·         There's something called the dominant fruit if the spirit, you must discover yours. There are specific fruits among all the 9 fruits mentioned in the scriptures, dominant in each and every Christian, and that is how you see life. If you fellowship well enough with the Holy Spirit, you'll know yours.
·         Finally, find out what the word says about you and your situation. Locate yourself in the word of God. The Word of God is the final authority in dealing with any situation.
 Shalom.
#FOBB
 
About Muyiwa Adigun


Muyiwa Adigun is a singer, writer, actor and radio show host.
His stage play and song album “Pelumi” shows his passion to build families and entertain wisdom.

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